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I love Granny Smith apples, Carl Sagan, a nice cup of Earl Grey tea, classical music, Star Trek (super much, I’m one of THOSE people), alphabet soup, wearing black, contemporary dance. I’m an introvert who spends far too much time buying makeup at Sephora, a social-media aficionado, and a book-nerd.

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24 comments

  1. Lucia, if you might me being personal, is there a reason why trauma and violence have become a focus of study? – Dan Lang

    1. Hi Dan – yes, absolutely. I was sexually assaulted at 15, and again at 24. Once I started to realize I wasn’t alone, I decided to do research and try and understand trauma and violence a bit more – both my experiences and the experiences of others.

      1. Lucia, all I can say, is my wife and I and the survivors that are with us stand with you. While I myself have not personally been assaulted I have endured much as abusers have told there lies to save themselves from prison, where they belong. I have suffered much standing against the abuser, and I would do it all again. Truth is truth and it cannot be compromised. We believe and we stand with you. We do not sit silently but stand for those abused and against abusers everywhere, so that we as a global society move in direction to decrease this epidemic.:) 😦
        I would high recommend the book Trauma Myth by Susan Clancy. Please do not get caught up on the title. Here points is that 90% of victims are no traumatized at the time of the abuse. The trauma comes later. These victims are the iceberg beneath the water. The foul abusers who play on the trust of people and abuse children. This is one of the great reasons abuse in general is under reported. I am on a mission to bring to light every abuser I am made aware of. Shalom – Daniel

  2. You’re definitely a very interesting, intuitive and intelligent person! Nice meeting you Lucia! πŸ˜€
    With the first blog post I read and re-blogged from yours, I never thought of you being an atheist and a skeptic πŸ™‚ but a feminist, yeah…and an anti-oppression activist. Cheerios!

  3. How fascinating. Just read your post on the single life (I.e., being a ‘singleton’ – living solo as opposed to being a ‘single parent’ etc.), how it’s become a choice of many. Yet even tho it’s one of the fastest growing (expanding) demographics, few discuss it as you did so eloquently, unless it’s a judgment of the singleton’s psyche, emotional abilities, choices, blah blah. “Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After,” Bella DePaulo, PhD, 2006, discusses the myths & stereotyping of people who are solo-ists – a prejudging by others who smugly think they know more about you than they do just by virtue of your ‘single-ness’): e.g., how you must be miserable, lonely, and/or envious of couples since coupledom is the ultimate goal (in their narrow realities). Or how you must be commitment-phobic, or too picky, or bedeviled with baggage. “Or maybe they figure you are gay, and they think that’s a problem too.” A recent and more positive book, “Going Solo: The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone,” by Eric Klinenberg, shows stats that astound (e.g., “nearly half of Manhattan residences are one-person dwellings,” 27% of all U.S. households have only one occupant, and equally surprising to some, that many countries defined as ‘communal’ (including Italians [29%], Japanese [31%], Netherlands [36%], Germans, Norwegians, and Swedens [39, 40 & 49% of one-occupant households] – an incomplete list of countries that beat the U.S. in the solo living category (i.e., those who are uncoupled, including partners and/or children & parents) – is something to consider beyond the stereotypical judgments of couples, therapists, and friends who appear conditioned and/or compelled to compete, placing themselves in the position of ‘Best’. Is it a matter of competition? Conditioning? Shallow thinking? I don’t know – except to observe the following: Whether we live alone as ‘singletons’ or ‘couples’, LONELINESS is an unhealthy emotional state with negative consequences, unless one makes a conscious effort (and it is a lifestyle choice that does take time & effort, just as does exercise and eating well) to prioritize the pursuit of meaningful connections. Thank you for your observant, open, intelligently written blog. I am definitely a new fan who is looking forward to future revelations from you – your emotional honesty & depth are both refreshing & rare, a delight regardless of the serious tone or tenor. Stay true. And, again, thank you. SueM, San Francisco

    1. Thank you so much, Sue, both for your comments and your fantastic book recommendation. I’ve recently read Anneli Rufus’ “Party of One” and Emily White’s “Lonely: Learning to Live With Solitude,” but I’ve been keen to read much more on the subject! I’m definitely going to check these books out.

  4. Hi Lucia

    I saw your video about impostor syndrome when I was just starting my Masters and now I’m wrapping up and finishing in a month. While I was never really tempted to give up, your video made it way easier to stick with it and to find solutions rather than just wallowing in misery.
    By the way — Star Trek? AWESOME. Me too. Voyager has always been my favourite series. I am in an EXTREMELY male-dominated field, and I find that Janeway and B’Elanna continue to inspire me as much as they did when I was tuning in as a kid. Fiction is a pretty powerful thing. πŸ™‚

    All the best!

    1. Thank you SO much for commenting, Stephanie – and congratulations on finishing off your Masters! I’m glad that my video was able to be of some help. SO AGREE re: Star Trek. Dr. Crusher, Cpt. Janeway, B’Elanna….huge rule models for me growing up.

  5. I just ran across your video on Idealism in Academia. I wanted to thank you very much for your comments.

    I’m an MA student in English. I’m finishing up my last year in the program, focusing on an MA Thesis and studying for Comps. I’ve been frustrated lately because I sense exactly this idealism among colleagues when I bring up the difficulty of the academic job market. It’s almost as if a number of those in my program do not want to accept the possibility that they may struggle through a PhD program without finding a tenure track position. They resort to what I find to be really idealistic claims–“Oh, I’ll get in.” “I’ll just try as hard as I can.” “I don’t care if I am in debt, underpaid, and overworked as long as I’m doing what I love.” They can’t seem to understand that the market is such that being denied an academic job does not correlate to your abilities as a scholar. “Trying as hard as you can” isn’t a justification strong enough to cease concern about the economic realities surrounding the field.

    For me, your video was insightful and helpful. Often, when I present concerns to fellow colleagues, I get the impression that I’m being dismissed as worrying overmuch. Conversely, I think that recognizing the truth of the market and being realistic–having backup plans and, most importantly, learning how to read any signs that the market may not have a place for you–will produce a more driven PhD candidate.

  6. Lucia, I found your name connected to Vancouver Fashion week.I was horrified to see the model in their advert in the September 23rd edition of Vancouver Metro newspaper.The model looks like a teenage African man with no hair,no hands and a broken leg. He/she is wearing a fluffy pink skirt, a conservative blouse and two strap shoes. Whoever chose this “model”needs professional help.
    I tried to contact Jamal but no success.Please try and find the advert and the boy/girl.
    You may be able to find it on their email site ww.vanfashionweek.com or @vanfashionweek
    Perhaps you can warn them about totally inappropriate choices of models.
    good luck,
    Maggie

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